Your 14-year-old son is growing into a rebel and you don´t know how to control the situation? Here are some tips from our psychologist, Dr Paul Bonton.
Staying up till all hours: it is characteristic of teenagers and their parents to be at loggerheads over the time they go out. You may wonder where the enthusiasm for being night hawks comes from. The fact is, yougsters tend to feed freer and safer under the moonlight. So let him enjoy himself till past midnight. Just check this does not affect health.
How about some junk food?: if you heard him complain over and over again about your steak and nice, or if he dines more at Mc. Donald´s than at home, it´s time you changed your culinary habits.
Delight him with a hamburger and chips every now nd then. This will not only gain you his gratefulness, but you will also be able to control his diet.
Tell me what you are wearing and I´ll tell you who you are: clothes are quite an issue when it comes to adolescents. Is they have a sense of belonging to a group, it´s likely that they will all dress alive. Or maybe he has his own attention-seeking style. However scruffy his outfit is, avoid hagging him about his looks. Having to face a mirror daily is enough of a hassle for him. His clothes are the shield of his identity, and trying to alter this will be more of a hindrance than a help.
Better alone than in ill company?: he has forgotten his old folks and goes out with a gang of strangers instead? It´s only natural that he needs to experience new sensations. Don´t try to influence him on this matter. Certainly, he has taken the values you´ve taught him, so he will feel a wisfit and return with his old pals in no time.
A Hitler won´t do: finally, think about how you get along with him . Avoid complaining about everything or trying to have him under your thumb. Just let him know you´re there if he needs you. He will soon learn to trust you and count on you.
And a final point. Don´t impose your will on your son. If you want him to respect you, start by letting him feel a member of your family.
Staying up till all hours: it is characteristic of teenagers and their parents to be at loggerheads over the time they go out. You may wonder where the enthusiasm for being night hawks comes from. The fact is, yougsters tend to feed freer and safer under the moonlight. So let him enjoy himself till past midnight. Just check this does not affect health.
How about some junk food?: if you heard him complain over and over again about your steak and nice, or if he dines more at Mc. Donald´s than at home, it´s time you changed your culinary habits.
Delight him with a hamburger and chips every now nd then. This will not only gain you his gratefulness, but you will also be able to control his diet.
Tell me what you are wearing and I´ll tell you who you are: clothes are quite an issue when it comes to adolescents. Is they have a sense of belonging to a group, it´s likely that they will all dress alive. Or maybe he has his own attention-seeking style. However scruffy his outfit is, avoid hagging him about his looks. Having to face a mirror daily is enough of a hassle for him. His clothes are the shield of his identity, and trying to alter this will be more of a hindrance than a help.
Better alone than in ill company?: he has forgotten his old folks and goes out with a gang of strangers instead? It´s only natural that he needs to experience new sensations. Don´t try to influence him on this matter. Certainly, he has taken the values you´ve taught him, so he will feel a wisfit and return with his old pals in no time.
A Hitler won´t do: finally, think about how you get along with him . Avoid complaining about everything or trying to have him under your thumb. Just let him know you´re there if he needs you. He will soon learn to trust you and count on you.
And a final point. Don´t impose your will on your son. If you want him to respect you, start by letting him feel a member of your family.
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